Hmm I think you don't understand what I said

I think we need to sit down and set rules.

I like your personality or I would not be with you, but I think we need to define things better so that when we have conversations we are not overly jumpy on what is a punishable offense.

I think we skipped a step we looked at what you liked and what you did not like, we looked at safe words, but we failed to look at rules. What we need to do is sit down and build rules I will put something together then we can look at it and go from there.

I don't think that it is me that should be deciding when I get punished. It shouldn't be my decision. This is definitely something that we need to be talking about. I don't like the idea that me being me is going to give me a punishment. I don't like the idea that I am going to have to change the way I am so that I don't get punished. The idea totally scares me.
That's not to say punishements can't be fun ;)

If you can't figure out what is going to work...then well....we may have a problem! lol

Keeping on top of things Punishment

How do I know when my Sub feels that she should be punished. Hell what does my sub constitute as a punishable offence? I do not want to wail away on her anytime the mood strikes me, but what does one set rules about. I have seen doms form their opinion on a multitude of thing, but in some cases it is because they are trying to set the mood.

I do not think I need to use punishment to set the mood for everything. There are times when she may want to go totally A-typical sub I guess and then I can see the whole eyes down approach, but for every day life I cannot figure out what is going to work.

Wow, he posts 2 in one day!!

Can I say No? Yes. Do I want to? No.
I know you are worried. And we have talked about it. I make a promise to you that I will use my words if it gets to be too much!
I know you will never purposefully hurt me. I know that I am working through my emotions and thoughts while we do a scene. I know that I need to analyze what is really happening before I say Yellow or Red.
On a side note, how excited am I that we might be buying a house soon!?!?! And by soon, I mean like the summer.....lol
Love you!

Can she say stop

I have to admit I am slightly worried about her ability to say stop once we have started a scene. She was initially worried that I would stop when she did not need me to I am guessing she thought I had a gentle nature.

She has said something that worries me that she is so afraid of disappointing me she is not sure she can use her safe word if she needs to. I guess that will be something that I have to find out will she let it go so far that I break her without meaning to?

Hmm me blogging

I understand technically how this thing all works, but I would never think to actually blog.

Hmm the what to say phase yes we are in a loving great relationship and we are taking a turn down a very new road for both of us. I have topped before without knowing what it was being called or even thought, but this is different.

This is very different a bit scary because I am doing this with someone I have committed my life to and who has committed her life to me. It is happening with someone who I love and yet I feel like I am bringing over to the dark side.

Protecting one from others is easy protecting someone from yourself though that is the challenge. Finding the razor's edge between having her understand that her loving husband who would never hurt her can and will take things to a point that she has never seen before......

Mutterings from my confused mind
Real

Where is he?

You would think that he would be on time for his own blog, wouldn't you?
Let me describe him for you.
He is the love of my life. Without him, yes I could survive, but my life would be so boring. I love having him around to laugh with, to hold, to be with. We have our ups and downs, but really? It's all great. He treats me with respect (unless I don't want him too!). He loves me and has started me on the process of loving myself, which is so important. He encourages me and because I want to please him and make him proud I do the very best that I can.